Love language quiz
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It is your birthday. What would make your day?
An unofficial quiz. The five love languages are Gary Chapman's idea, and LifeSim is not affiliated with him or his publisher. His own quiz is on the 5 Love Languages website.
What is my love language?
Answer 12 questions about birthdays, bad days, and what you remember about your friends. The quiz shows your top love language and ranks all five: words of affirmation, quality time, receiving gifts, acts of service, and physical touch. It is free, with no sign-up and no email.
The five love languages are an idea of Gary Chapman, a marriage counselor and author. He described them in his 1992 book The 5 Love Languages, and later wrote versions about children and teenagers. His idea: people give and feel care in different ways, and it helps to know which way speaks to you and to the people around you.
This quiz uses his five languages with questions we wrote ourselves, about friends and family as much as partners. It is for fun and for talking with your friends, not a test. Your bars show all five: most people have one or two that stand out.
How the scoring works
Each answer gives 2 points to the result it fits best, and 1 point to the result it fits next. Every result gets the same number of points across all the answers of the quiz, so no result is easier to get than another.
After the last question, the quiz adds up the points of each result. The result with the most points wins. The bars show the share of each result in all your points, as whole percentages that add up to 100.
If two results have the same points, your later answers decide. The quiz looks at your last answer, then at the answer before it, until one of the two is ahead. If every answer gave them the same points, the result that this page lists first comes first.
Your result gets its own link. The link holds the name of the result and the percentages, never your answers. Anyone who opens it sees the same result card, and can take the quiz themselves.
The 5 love languages
Words of affirmation
Words of affirmation means feeling cared for through what people say or write: praise, thanks, encouragement, and saying "I'm glad you're here" out loud.
How to show it to a friend with this love language: Tell them what you like about them, and be specific. Send a message after a big day, hype them up in front of others, or leave a note in their bag.
Quality time
Quality time means feeling cared for through attention: doing things together, real talks, and being fully present, with the phone away.
How to show it to a friend with this love language: Make plans with them and keep them. Put your phone away when you hang out, ask real questions, and listen to the answers.
Receiving gifts
Receiving gifts means feeling cared for through things that show someone thought of you. The thought counts more than the price: a small, well-chosen thing says a lot.
How to show it to a friend with this love language: Bring them something small that made you think of them: their favorite snack, a sticker, a photo you printed. Remember their birthday, and wrap it, even badly.
Acts of service
Acts of service means feeling cared for through help: doing a task, taking something off your list, or showing up to fix a problem without being asked.
How to show it to a friend with this love language: Help with something on their list without being asked: a lift, a hand with homework, carrying their stuff. If you say you will do something, do it.
Physical touch
Physical touch means feeling cared for through friendly closeness: hugs, high fives, a hand on the shoulder, sitting side by side. With friends and family, it is the kind of touch that both people are comfortable with.
How to show it to a friend with this love language: Ask if they want a hug, and give good ones. High fives, a pat on the back, and sitting close for a movie all count. Always follow what they are comfortable with.
Questions
What are the 5 love languages?
Words of affirmation, quality time, receiving gifts, acts of service, and physical touch. Gary Chapman described them in his 1992 book The 5 Love Languages: the ways people most often give and feel care.
Is this the official love language quiz?
No. The five love languages are Gary Chapman's idea, and his own quiz is on the 5 Love Languages website. This quiz uses his five languages with our own questions, and LifeSim is not affiliated with him.
Can I take it if I am not dating anyone?
Yes. The questions are about friends and family as much as partners. Love languages work for any close relationship: your best friend, your parents, your brother or sister.
Can I have two love languages?
Yes. The bars under your result rank all five. Many people have one clear first language and a second one close behind it. Your ranking can also change as you grow up.
How do I find out my friend's love language?
Send them the quiz, then compare results in the group chat. Each result says how to show that love language to a friend, so you know what they would like.